Tuesday, July 15, 2014
an update on our adoption process
Hi poor neglected blog. Summer is taking over. Its so busy but not busy at the same time. I guess the lack of a defined schedule I just cant keep up with. There are SO many things to update and share that I haven't. People who came to visit (last winter!) pictures, stories and just life.
Summer has been great so far. Its going by too fast. Freeland has officially started his 3rd year of residency, Wylder has been potty trained, river has been playing Tball and taking swim lessons, as of last night the boys are sharing a room (still to-be-determined if this will be permanent) we've grilled out, had lots of friends over, celebrated the 4th, broken up way too many fights between siblings, cleaned out the house, done smores, summer haircuts, went on vacation and done more swimming than I can believe. So more on all that soon.
(*I threw in some pictures for those of you who have texted me letting me know you havent seen the kids! ;)
Today I thought Id share an update on our adoption process. I'm just now sharing it because I myself, just received it! Ive known this entire time we would have to be flexible and that the timeline would probably change 100 times. That has been true. Ive also known we're working within a system so we would have to do just that - work WITH the system. I know that the ways we're having to be flexible and readjust our expectations and be patient now are probably nothing in comparison to what it will be once a child is actually in our home. So its felt easy to do at this point ... knowing what could be ahead.
When we originally started our training & home study in January, I thought we could be placed by May. (Awwww, sweet innocent Brooke.) Then that quickly become June or July. Which by the end of our home study changed again to August and as of yesterday I was actually thinking we wouldn't be "officially waiting" or "placed with a child" until September ... possibly October... and if you asked me I wouldve actually told you "in reality lets be honest.. it will probably be Christmas".
I was talking to my friend, Sarah, once and she said "I understand, its like you really want to rush it all just so you can wait" That was exactly how it felt. It was so true and wise! I wanted to rush this entire process so then I could just more than likely sit and wait still.
So Freeland & I felt like we were supposed to just be patient. It was a great reminder that there is a time to fight for a child and a time to wait and allow the Lord to do the work. Im not sure if that makes sense, but my point is, instead of calling and asking and trying to push our home study along and ask for updates every week ... we both just felt a peace about waiting. Knowing that the Lord was orchestrating it and doing the work and aligning everything even though we felt like we were just sitting here. Another friend, Ashley, had encouraged us when we started that in the times it felt like we weren't "doing" anything to know that the Lord still was. Ive definitely found that to be true too.
Then yesterday I got an email from our case worker letting us know about one last class we have to take. (we've known this was coming) its something only our county requires and its just plain silly. Its an 8 hour class that basically will cover all the things we have already covered and we will have to find something to do with our kiddos for 8 hours! But alas .. its the way the system works .. so we will happily work within the system.
I emailed her back to say thank you and ask that since our home study was just now being submitted (long story but thats was my impression) should I expect to be cleared and officially waiting late September or October? She emailed me back right away and said "no!!!! your home study is almost done being processed and should be done before the training so you will officially be waiting as soon as yall do the training"
I had no idea. In all our "being patient" and "not pushing" I didnt even realize it was finally submitted. And all this time Ive been gearing myself up to be waiting even longer. Ive mentally planned on later in the fall. We've even already scheduled things thinking we wouldn't be placed yet. (LIKE A TRIP TO TEXAS. GULP)
and it just makes me laugh. We adjusted to thinking it would take a long time. And now Im adjusting to feeling like all the sudden this could happen WAY sooner than I thought. Im positive that this is just one tiny little adjustment we will be making along the way and there will be plenty more unexpected things a long the way.
And to be clear .. this is a really exciting unexpected bump so I love it.
We're ready. Our kids are SO ready. (well maybe not Chapel. Yikes)
Yesterday I walked outside and heard River saying something about a baby. I assumed he was calling his sister a baby (to tell her she couldn't play with the 'big kids') so I asked him what he said. He responded "I was telling Wylder we're getting another baby and we need him here NOW." (yes, him, they are convinced its a boy)
So thats the latest update for all of you. Our home study, despite thinking otherwise, was actually submitted and is almost done being approved. We'll take our final training mid August and once it shows up in the system as being complete.. we will officially be waiting. We're told that in our area we could be placed very quickly and to expect that. But we also know that the Lord is the one orchestrating it all so we will see what happens.
For all I know .. we could go back to waiting even longer! Stay tuned.